How to get children to have confidence in themselves

How to get children to have confidence in themselves

How to get children to have confidence in themselves

Help your children to have security and confidence in their abilities. From birth, the child builds self-confidence through the confident and proud look of his/her parent(s).

A child psychiatrist, explains how to feed this sensation day by day.

Because self-confidence is never acquired definitively.

Self-confidence is an essential value for the child since it is what will allow him/her to try anything, accept challenges and face new situations without becoming too distressed.

How to build children’s confidence in themselves

Self- confidence has a real stimulating effect on a child:

it gives him/her the energy and courage necessary to get into life, face learning, make friends and conquer, little by little, his autonomy.

Faced with difficulty, a child who is confident in himself/herself will bet on their chances of success.

He/She who lacks it will be locked in a negative prediction and will be convinced that it will fail.

That way, he/she will not even make the attempt, or he/she will find someone who accepts the challenge for them or will fail. And that is a shame!

The child acquires the basis of this feeling of trust already in the first months of life, thanks to the bonds of trust and attachment that bind them to their parents.

Since parents are attentive to their needs and try to respond to them as well as possible, babies feel worthy of interest and can consider the world around them with more confidence than distrust.

As far as parents are concerned, it is also essential that they trust themselves as parents, not to be invaded by doubts, even if it is normal to have them.

How can a child build self-confidence if the parents are not sure of their role and position?

Do not forget that the child acquires confidence through the eyes of his/her parents.

The task begins with the attitude of the parents, recognizing that the child has all the qualities and capabilities necessary to achieve what is proposed.

That means, to begin with, not being afraid of everything, not implicitly conveying the message that you are surrounded by dangers,

that it is preferable not to try anything so as not to take risks.

The accolades are essential to build trust and grow.

It is what tells the child that he/she is on the right track, that he has chosen the right strategy to succeed.

That is why we should not hesitate to congratulate him/her.

Many adults today have received an education in which, first and foremost, mistakes were pointed out and achievements were considered normal.

To avoid this risk, it is enough to handle the praise well by focusing on the objective achieved, not on the person.

It is useless to constantly repeat how handsome and clever he is.

The really effective thing is to tell him that the drawing he has made is fantastic and that we are proud of him.

The criticisms are also necessary, provided they are fair.

It is better to stress that we do not like his behavior or that it is not admissible than to tell him that it is bad.

Too many verbal excesses of the type “You are a disaster” or “You are unbearable!”

Even if we think they have no consequences because we say them in times of anger –

they may end up undermining their self-esteem. Love doesn’t fix everything.

How to get children to have confidence in themselves


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